Envelope Etiquette

Here are some basic examples of common addressing situations for envelopes. Etiquette tips can vary by source and you can choose any way you want to address the envelopes for your wedding (because sometimes it’s fun to break the rules.) But, if you want to follow some rules, read below.

 
 

Formal

Married Couple
OUTER: 
Mr. and Mrs. George Smith
INNER: 
Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Married Couple with Children Under 18 Living at Home
OUTER:
Mr. and Mrs. George Smith
INNER:
Mr. and Mrs. Smith
Miss Sarah Smith
Mr. Noah Smith

Informal

Married Couple
George and Mary Smith

Married Couple with Children Under 18 Living at Home
The George Smith Family
or
George and Mary Smith and Family

 
 

The below examples are listed formally. If you would like to write them informally please reference the Informal examples above.

 
 

Single Woman
Traditionally, women over 18 are addressed as “Ms.”
OUTER:
Ms. Mary Johnson
INNER WITHOUT GUEST:
Ms. Johnson
INNER WITH GUEST:
Ms. Johnson and Guest
or
Ms. Johnson
Mr. Smith

Single Man
OUTER:
Mr. George Smith
INNER WITHOUT GUEST:
Mr. Smith
INNER WITH GUEST:
Mr. Smith and Guest
or
Mr. Smith
Ms. Johnson

Unmarried Couple Living Together
OUTER:
Ms. Mary Johnson
Mr. George Smith
INNER:
Ms. Johnson
Mr. Smith

Widow
OUTER:
Mrs. Mary Smith
INNER:
Mrs. Smith

Married Couple, Wife Kept Her Maiden Name
OUTER:
Mr. George Smith and Ms. Mary Johnson
INNER:
Mr. Smith and Ms. Johnson

Married Couple, Husband is a Doctor
OUTER:
Dr. and Mrs. George Smith
INNER:
Dr. and Mrs. Smith

Married Couple, Both are Doctors, Same Last Name
OUTER:
Doctor George Smith and Doctor Mary Smith
or
The Doctors Smith
INNER:
The Doctors Smith

Married Couple, Both are Doctors, Different Last Names
OUTER:
Doctor George Smith and Doctor Mary Johnson
INNER:
Doctor Smith and Doctor Johnson

Married Couple, Wife is a Doctor, Same Last Name
OUTER:
Dr. Mary Smith and Mr. George Smith
INNER:
Dr. Smith and Mr. Smith

Married Couple, Wife is a Doctor, Different Last Names
OUTER:
Dr. Mary Johnson and Mr. George Smith
INNER:
Dr. Johnson and Mr. Smith

Same Sex Male Married Couple with the Same Last Name
OUTER:
The Messieurs George and John Smith
INNER:
The Messieurs Smith

Same Sex Male Married Couple with Different Last Names
OUTER:
Mr. George Smith and Mr. John Johnson
INNER:
Mr. Smith and Mr. Johnson

Same Sex Female Married Couple with the Same Last Name
OUTER:
The Mesdames Mary and Ellen Johnson
INNER:
The Mesdames Johnson

Same Sex Female Married Couple with Different Last Names
OUTER:
Mrs. Mary Johnson and Mrs. Ellen Smith
INNER:
Mrs. Johnson and Mrs. Smith